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Learn To Lean

3/3/2016

 
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LEARNING TO LEAN WAS NOT A GOAL

The idea of learning to lean on another person does not seem to be a goal worth achieving. As a believer, and a woman I have been taught that it is important to be strong, sufficient, and capable. From an early age I learned the benefit of depending on myself and not others then life circumstances built on this foundation of self-sufficiency. My belief system said “the more able you are to take care of things, to keep it all in control, the more mature you are”. As a small child I learned that to convey need was a sign of weakness. I learned to suck it up and move on and to pick myself up and move forward.  “I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR” was my motto! I was an overcomer by MY OWN WILL. 

My Life Had Been Built On A Faulty Foundation

You can imagine how unnerving it was to seek God in His word and discover that my whole life had been built on a faulty foundation; that in reality God’s ways are completely opposite. The more we learn to lean on Him, trust Him, rely and depend on His ways and wisdom the more mature we are!

This truth is displayed clearly in the book the Song of Solomon. Over 15 years ago I set my heart to understand who Jesus was as my Bridegroom or Husband. I began to discover the riches of the word in passages such as:

Hosea 2: I will allure you to the wilderness; You will sing as in the days of your youth; You will no longer call me Master, you will call me Husband; I will exchange your valley of trouble for a door of hope, etc.

Revelation 19: there is a marriage supper of the Lamb coming and the BRIDE has made herself ready. She is clothed in fine linen. Who is the Bride I wondered.

I learned that Jesus is returning for a Bride, pure and spotless and that God in his kindness draws us to the wilderness by speaking kindly to us, and in the wilderness He transforms our understanding of who He is from Baali (Master) to Ishi (Husband). God began to awaken my heart to seek the understanding of who I was as the beloved of Christ. I desperately needed to know this love.

Over the next 4 years the Word of God would transform my life. I would discover that there really was power in the Word and His Word brings life. My wounded heart, and lie-filled mind were slowly transformed into a new identity.

HOLY DISRUPTION…AN INTERNAL EARTHQUAKE

One thing that really impacted me was at the END of the Song of Solomon; as the Schulamite who represents us as believers had gone through the journey of discovering the power of love she came out of the wilderness LEANING on her beloved. My paradigm of a beautiful, powerful woman of God was amiss; according to the Word, trials and difficulty equip us to lean on Him and not our own strength. Trauma develops faith and trust if we allow it. Unfortunately, many who have experienced trauma, disappointment, pain and suffering have learned like me to depend upon themselves.alone

GOD’S VISION FOR A MATURE BELIEVER…

God’s goal in maturing us is to help us develop a level of trust that we will continually choose to trust in Him and lean not on our own understanding. As a single mother I spent countless hours and energy on figuring things out, leaning on my own understanding and strength while all the while the Creator God desired to teach me to lean.

LEARNING TO LEAN

So what how do we develop the strength to lean? As we look into the word of God there are biblical steps that lead us up to the maturity of leaning:

Desire: we have to want a deeper place of knowing Him as the All-Sufficient One.
Draw Me After You and let us run together…we want to run without being drawn.
Acknowledge our beauty and darkness: “I am dark but lovely”. Your Maker has made you beautiful; so often we are so overcome with our darkness that we cannot even think it possible that there is beauty. This is a challenge for many women but necessary if we are to move through the journey of discovery.

Commit to the process: We live in a quick fix society. However, for a lifetime we have been taught and developed the muscle of “I AM ENOUGH, I CAN TAKE CARE OF MYSELF”. We must commit to the process of learning to lean. It’s like learning to use a muscle that we have never exercised…a leaning muscle.

Ask Holy Spirit for HELP. We want to figure it out and work it out on our own. But God has given us One called The Helper…ASK and it will be given unto you, seek and you will find. He is waiting for us to ASK.
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I am committed to seeing a multitude of women arise out of the ashes into the beauty of maturity. Let’s learn to lean together.

Are you in the midst of a situation where you are troubled because you can’t figure out how to move past it? Is God calling?

Quit Staring...

2/18/2016

 
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DON'T STARE AT ME

​I don’t know how many times I walked into a room as a young(er) single mother and felt everyone was staring at me and all of my sin was on display. My inability to ‘keep’ a husband was a reproach I had to bear.

I WANTED TO SCREAM “QUIT STARING…IT’S NOT MY FAULT”

But I didn’t, I let that silent scream of ‘you don’t understand’ remain tucked away and it began to grow into a root of bitterness and judgment of others. I was abandon by the husband of my youth and I wanted to blame and find fault with everyone and everything else. I pointed my finger at others, until the day when I realized that my own bitterness, judgment and unforgiveness were keeping me from the One I needed more than anything else. I needed and desperately wanted to know love; my heart was becoming dull and hard and I was ready to be delivered from the pit of despair.

So like the Schulamite in Song of Solomon 1 I cried out “tell me oh you whom my soul loves…where can I find you”. I spent myself trying to please Him and make myself acceptable to others, but none of this satisfied my heart and the desire I had to be wanted.

It was during this time that I found myself mentoring 4 college girls and as I have looked back over my journey into wholeheartedness, I realized that mentoring those young women was one of the BEST things for my heart. I was in search of a loving Bridegroom and these young ladies wanted to know Him too.

I discovered a key to finding Jesus;  He gives us that key in response to the cry “WHERE CAN I FIND YOU“.  We are told by the good Shepherd in Song of Solomon 1:8

If you yourself do not know,
Most beautiful among women,
Go forth on the trail of the flock
And pasture your young goats
By the tents of the shepherds.

In other words: “pay attention and care for those younger and more vulnerable than you”. Maybe your young goats are your children; if so, tend to their hearts, help them discover Jesus, feed them on the Bread of Life, help them find rest in His loving embrace.  Care for those who are less mature than you.

God was so jealous for me to understand HIS LOVE that He placed these young women in my life so not only would I be praying and studying the Word, but I would be SHARING it too. If you want to get the word of God IN YOU start sharing the little you know and then go learn more truth and share another little nibble.

Giving to others what Jesus has given to us multiplies it IN us.

So don’t be afraid to discuss your morning devotional with your children, or pray with them on the way to school. Over dinner discuss what they dream about at night and ask the Holy Spirit for interpretation (God used to speak a lot to a few of my children through dreams).

Or grab a friend at work and start to discuss what you are reading in the bible; take a college girl out for coffee and listen to her story and how she is pursuing God. Commit to writing a few encouraging e-mails or texts to a friends each day. Sent a photo of a devotional that means a lot to you and a short prayer.  The key is be intentional about feeding others who are seeking the Bread of Life. You will be amazed at the exponential growth in your own life as a result.

What is one way you can commit to give to someone this week?

Memories.

1/5/2016

 
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​MAKING MEMORIES CREATES CONNECTEDNESS

When we create good memories with our children we become connected. This was so evident in my life as a new single mother. My oldest daughter (13 years old) became angry, apathetic, and withdrawn when her dad left. I tried everything to reach her: my own angry responses, kindness, threats, my own form of withdraw but nothing seemed to reach her.

I decided early on in the process of my divorce that I would be committed to taking time away with my children. I needed it for my own well-being. Our lives were so intense and we needed a break, even if it was only for a long weekend. It was during one such long weekend that I had an AH-HA moment with my daughter. We were in a cabin (during off season…it’s cheaper) and she came and sat on my lap. I realized she was still the same little girl; in that moment God opened up my eyes to see the impact and importance of time away. She was tender again, she longed for love and affirmation no matter what her walls said and it took pulling her away from friends and the familiar for her to open up and connect with me and her siblings.

Making memories was monumental in our journey as a family. 
We connected and became bonded during those times away together.
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Although getting away on a trip together is a great way to build memories as a family, the reality is many single mothers can’t do this. However, we serve a creative God who wants us to make memories, memorials with our children. All throughout the word of God, He directs the fathers to ‘tell your children’ about the miracles of old, REMEMBER He says. I believe He wants us to create those impacting, important, fun times with our families.

AS YOU LOOK INTO 2016, THERE ARE SOME WONDERFUL WAYS YOU CAN BEGIN NOW TO BUILD MEMORIES AND STAY CONNECTED TO YOUR FAMILY AND THEM TO YOU.

PRAY

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Philippians 4:6

God wants us to be connected with our children more than we do. He is CREATIVE, He is the GOD WITH A PLAN, He has ALL RESOURCES.  Let Him know the desires of your heart when it comes to making memories with your children and ask for His help. 

PLAN AHEAD

Put it in your calendar now
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WRITE DOWN A LIST OF IDEAS

If you don’t have some ideas down on paper it will never happen. Include seasonal ideas such as a trip to an apple orchard for the fall etc.

PREPARE YOUR FAMILY

Depending on the ages you might get some complaints, especially if you have not intentionally connected with your kids in the past.
Sit everyone down together (Family Meetings are GREAT). Be INTENTIONAL with them.

DO IT

Don’t let anything get in the way of follow through. Our kids must know our word is true. Many have been hurt time and time again by unkept promises. It is better to start small with something doable than to promise a trip to the beach when you have never left the city.

FOLLOW UP

This is JUST as important as the planning and preparing. We want our children to learn how to think, to engage in the world around them. Ask two simple questions:

What did you love.
What did you learn.
(from John Maxwell Intentional Living: Day 16 Create a Memory and Visit it Often)
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It will cost big bucks!

PRAY TOGETHER

Thank God for what He gave you, for what you learned. Thank Him for being a Good Father.

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I believe Single Mother Families can thrive

I believe that our children can have a solid hope for the future

I believe that we as mothers can do small things such as being intentional about connecting with our children that will increase their chance for successful marriages, careers, and family life.

Let us know how you create memories with your children?


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​Misty Honnold is the founder and director of The Single MOM KC. Her highest honor and favorite title has been MOM for the past 30 years. Her new favorite title is GRAMMY. Misty is passionate to bring the message of HOPE to single mothers throughout the nation. She also seeks to help educate the church on effective ministry to single mothers. Misty would love to help you build a single mother ministry in your church. 
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When At Work

1/8/2015

 
WORSHIP WHILE YOU WORK
​When I was young and raising my kids, one of the hardest things to do was find a space or pocket of time where I could sit quietly with the Lord. Someone was always getting hurt or waking up early and it became a season of frustration with myself. I felt like I didn’t measure up with the Father, because I wasn’t having a successful “quiet time”. I began to not want to approach God because I was feeling the need to “catch up” because it was sometimes days in-between a real connection time with Him.

One day I was listening to my late husband teach on Colossians 3:17, “Whatever you do in word or deed do all in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, giving thanks to the Father through Him,” and Colossians 3:23, “Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people”.

All of a sudden I realized that I could be communing and talking with God while I was doing my work at home! This verse didn’t just apply to someone with a full-time job outside the home – but it applied to any of my work in the house! I began to make my prayer time when I vacuumed, did the dishes, or folded clothes. I would ask the Father questions, as well as giving Him my thoughts and petitions for others.

I began singing with my kids and singing to Him in the car. I kept worship music playing in the house to remind me to stay vertically connected. I also would dialog with Him while driving and as the kids got older, this became my children’s question, “Mommy – are you talking to me or to God?”

Like the song, “Whistle While you Work” from Snow White, “worship while you work” became my theme in those years with small children. This not only impacted my attitudes and responses to my kids, but also began to tear down the performance mentality I’d had for so many years growing up. It also was simultaneously teaching my family that the Father dialogs with us in a normal manner. My prayers were not limited to church, quiet times, and grace at the table– but were a part of the normal rhythm of life. He was a part of their normal and it cultivated awareness of Him not only being present with us, but also involved in the mundane of our lives.

The other area I saw lacking during this season was my reading and memorization of the Word of God. To solve this issue, I found children’s CDs – or cassettes back then -that had scriptures put to music. I’d play these and learn them with my kids, so that I was continuing to sow the Word into my heart and mind, as well as theirs. To this day, I remember the scriptures I know from songs better than any other way I have memorized them.

So be encouraged in this season of the chaos and constant movement of your younger ones! You can connect with Him and cultivate a lifestyle of prayer and worship even in the busyness! He knows exactly where you are in your season.

Written by: Laurie Morris
http://hismosaic.squarespace.com/

Singled Out?

1/1/2015

 
SINGLED OUT OR CHOSEN TO WORSHIP?
​Let’s begin with a rhetorical question: As a “single mom” have you ever felt “singled out”?  In the midst of loss, upheaval, and the complete overthrow of life the way it once was or the way you thought it would, be has the question: ”Why me?” or “Why my kids?” ever crossed your mind? In my particular case, as I watched a 10 year old marriage go from a comatose state to it’s final breath, I had a surreal sense that in the mercy of God, my children and I were being “singled out,” “called out” and in some strange way “chosen.”

With the Word of God as a backdrop, deep down inside I believed that if my boys and I were eating “the bread of adversity,” like the Biblical accounts of so many others, surely it couldn’t all just be in vain. Nevertheless, the question “Why me?” waited at the door of my mind for me to open, and allow its invasion of accusation, condemnation, guilt and shame to walk right in, and take a seat.

There are perhaps as many ways to approach the question “Why me?” as there are possible answers. I can’t answer your “Why?” any more than I could my own, but my prayer is that this blog will connect (or reconnect) your heart with that of your Heavenly Father, and His “big picture” purpose for your pain and suffering. As single mom’s we have indeed been “singled out”, but the grace to connect, and stay connected with the redemptive, eternal plan of God was, for me, the difference between joy and depression, hope and utter despair, faith and unbelief. Let’s take a look at a few others who were also “singled out” to see what God’s redemptive purpose was for them.

Abraham

Abraham was chosen, and “singled out”  from among the idolaters in his society. The first test of Abraham’s love for God was his willingness to leave all and go with God. “Go from your country, your people and your father’s household to the land I will show you.” (Genesis 12:1)

God’s purpose for Abraham and the Jews was to have a people set apart for Himself so that He might have true worship in the earth until His Son returns. Where there is “true” worship, there can be no worship of idols.

Ruth

Likewise, Ruth was “singled out” from among the idolaters of her society in Moab. As Ruth chose to follow her bereaved mother-in-law, Naomi, back to the land of Israel, and join herself to the God of Israel, she was grafted into His master plan of uniting Jew and Gentile which gave birth to the royal line of King David, leading to the first coming of the Messiah, Yeshua.

In Ruth 1:15 Naomi says to Ruth “Look at your sister-in-law. She has returned to live with her people and to worship her gods; go and follow her.” But Ruth replies “…your God will be my God.” Her willingness to leave all behind in order to follow the Living God takes her from emptiness to vindication to redemption. Her very life becomes worship unto God, because her heart was connected to the truth of God as her Redeemer.

Me

In the summer of 2013, I answered the call to “Go from your country, your people…to the land I will show you.” Sure, moving to an underdeveloped country with God as my sole supporter, to help establish a House of Prayer meant letting go of everything familiar. I knew this would bring with it many challenges. What I didn’t know was that there was an idol among us that we weren’t aware of: ME! I wasn’t aware that my sons “worshipped” an “image” of me as the organized-responsible-make things work-make things happen-problem solving-full-time working-money earning-has it all together with dinner on the table mom. However, the day one son asked the rhetorical question: “Do you realize you make less than the average Dominican?,” I suddenly realized I had been “dethroned.” And if feeling like I’d just lost the respect and admiration of my sons I’d so treasured up until that point wasn’t enough, I then realized I had “worshipped” the fact that they worshipped me! So The Eternal One, in His infinite wisdom “called us out” of our land of idolatry, and stripped us of the “false or incomplete perceptions” we had of each other, that we might worship Him, and Him alone.

“Leave all” is for all

In some way God designs a “leave all” experience for all those He loves. We tend to apply God’s command to “Go from your country…” to missionaries or others who are moving geographically. But the command God gave to Abraham is much the same for each of us. He calls us “out of darkness into His marvelous light” by using the circumstances of our lives to cause our natural affections to come into submission to His divine grace. He has reserved you and your children for Himself, that your lives would be worship unto Him, developing trust and obedience so that when Yeshua returns, the faith He is looking for on the earth will be found in you!

A life of worship

As we submit to His leadership and allow Him to bring us out of “the land of our idolatry”, we reflect and share in His divine nature more and more. “Worship “in truth” connects the heart or spirit of worship with the truth about God and his work of redemption. David understood the importance of worshiping in truth when he wrote, “Teach me your way, O Lord, and I will walk in your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear [i.e., worship] your name” (Psalm 86:11) (Baker’s Evangelical Dictionary)

God clearly states why He “singled out”  the Jews, and delivered them from idolatrous Egypt when He says: “Let my people go, so that they may worship me.” If you’re a “single mom”, you’ve been “singled out.” If you’ve been “singled out”, rest assured He has a divine plan to make your life one of worship unto Him. “Present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind” (1 Corinthians 15:50)

My prayer

No matter how desolate the place you’ve come out of has been or how empty life may sometimes seem, as you read this I pray the Holy Spirit will cause HOPE to arise in your heart, that you will embrace God’s eternal perspective for your life, and like Abraham and Ruth you will allow your heart to connect again and again with your Redeemer God, and the truth of His plan of redemption for you and your children. In Yeshua’s Name, Amen.

Roadblocks

12/31/2014

 
ROADBLOCKS AND BARRIERS
ob·sta·cle ˈäbstək(ə)l/ noun
  1. A thing that blocks one’s way or prevents or hinders progress.

Synonyms:
barrier, hurdle, stumbling, block, obstruction, bar, block, impediment, hindrance, snag, catch, drawback, hitch, handicap, deterrent, complication, difficulty, problem, disadvantage, curb, check;

More informal:
​fly in the ointment, monkey wrench (in the works) “blindness is not the worst obstacle I’ve had to overcome.”

Roadblocks and Barriers! It seems that for as long as I have lived in Kansas City, they have been making repairs to the infamous Red Bridge Road. This road is a main road to get to and from the north and south sides of town. I travel it daily some days, more than once. You can always expect the “flag man ahead” sign, or the bright orange “Detour” Which invariably is over the river and through roads. LOL

Recently, I came upon my usual “detour,” it was night and there were no “flag men” or sign warning me what was up ahead. I was caught off guard, I slowed down, it was dark and could barely see ahead. Without hesitation I instantly and methodically, made the usual turn and by memory took the detour.

When I came out on the other side, I looked back and realized that while there had been road work going on during the day and all the equipment was out, none of it was actually in operation everything was parked, while the road was not smooth, it was indeed unobstructed and clear. The workers had “closed” down for the night, which allowed drivers the ability to go through.

As I drove on, I began to think about how easy it is for us to gravitate to the “usual” and how we allow obstacles and detours in our personal lives to dictate to us whether or not we should go forward. We don’t even try to move on.

Instead, we make the “usual stop, or the usual turn” and never realize that the road had long since been cleared. I wonder, could it be that such familiarity with delay, disappointment, and obstacles has become second nature to us and we have become accustomed to our own mindset obstacles?

Could it be that we have set up these “life barriers” and “fortresses” in our minds and they have been in place for so long it has stopped our inability to move forward?

We find ourselves out the gate, anticipating that something won’t work, that something is holding us back or that there is an obstacle ahead that can’t be overcome and simply won’t allow us to move forward. What if the obstacle isn’t really there or it’s there but it’s not “our” obstacle; much like the parked utility vehicles on Red Bridge Road? What if we ignored it or walked around it or even right through it? Would we, could we advance forward; accomplish our goals; fulfill lifelong dreams? What if we focused on our intentions and abilities, our strengths and are past accomplishments instead of the boulders in our path, or doing it “the way we have always done it”?

I don’t know about you, but the year is soon coming to a close. I’ve set new and lofty goals for next year. I plan to
  • begin working out,
  • lose 25 pounds,
  • aggressively pursue my passion for writing, speaking and counseling,
  • go on short-term missions,
  • travel to visit far away friends,
  • save money,
  • the list goes on and on

Some of these are goals, others are dreams all, are possible. I know, there are a lot of obstacles, decoys and detours in the way: ability, money, confidence and mindset.  Can I recognize them for what they are “temporary?” and get my eyes off them? Can I work around and through them?  I believe I can. I suppose there will always be a “Red Bridge Road” to face in life but I take confidence in knowing The “ONE who built a BRIDGE and covered it in Red” It’s the Red Bridge Road of the Spirit and I can cross over, I only need to be willing.

What about you?
What is a goal you’d like to achieve but think there are too many obstacles in the way?
What if they are temporary, momentary or simply parked but not in your way?  Are you going to let those obstacles hold you back?

Why not take a moment today and rewrite on a fresh clean page new
goals, dreams, hopes, aspirations.


Why not believe again? You’re a single mom, and while it was a detour, it is NOT your obstacle. You are strong, courageous an overcomer.

You can do it and Christ will be glorified in your accomplishments and your successes.
You are a Warrior Bride. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you!  Philippians 4:16.  Let’s go forward in 2015 as an Isaiah 57:14 Army of Single mom’s who dream, who build, and remove every obstacle. Women who have made a way in their own lives and prepared a way for The Lord!
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“Build up, build up, prepare the road! Remove the obstacles out of the way of my people.”

​By Selenia Vera

I Need A Hero

12/18/2014

 
GOD’S CHOSEN HUSBAND AND FATHER
There is a song from my high school days called, “I Need a Hero” that asks the question women have asked through the ages:  Where have all the good men gone?

The song goes on to list the qualities of this hero that so many women are looking for: a white night, strong, fast, fresh from the fight, sure, larger than life, a super-man.

I see so many single mothers searching and longing for this hero to sweep her and her children off her feet, to rescue her. My question is, what is it that we SHOULD be looking for in a man? What are the qualities that are important to our Heavenly Father that should be important to us.

This year as I began reading the story of the conception and birth of Jesus, I realized that God the Father has given us the qualities that are important to HIM. He has shown us the kind of man that He looks to, a man that He chose to raise His Son, Jesus.  It would do us good to pay attention to the Lord’s leadership in this arena of life…What are those qualities that are so important to our Father in heaven?

Now the birth of Jesus Christ was as follows: when His mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child by the Holy Spirit. And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man and not wanting to disgrace her, planned to send her away secretly. But when he had considered this, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife; for the Child who has been conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. She will bear a Son; and you shall call His name Jesus, for He will save His people from their sins.” Now all this took place to fulfill what was spoken by the Lord through the prophet: “Behold, the virgin shall be with child and shall bear a Son, and they shall call His name Immanuel,” which translated means, “God with us.” And Joseph awoke from his sleep and did as the angel of the Lord commanded him, and took Mary as his wife, but kept her a virgin until she gave birth to a Son; and he called His name Jesus.
God’s Hero
  • He was righteous: he obeyed the Law, and in that day it meant that marrying a woman who had slept with someone gave him the right to have Mary stoned, or publicly humiliated. He knew the Law BUT mercy triumphs over judgement:
  • He was merciful: Even though legally he had rights to add shame and reproach to Mary, he didn’t want to. He did not want to humiliate or disgrace her. He wanted to honor her even when she had dishonored him (or so he thought…she apparently did not tell him that she had conceived of the Holy Spirit…or if she did he did not believe her because he was still going to send her away) 
  • He was obedient to the Lord’s direction: He obeyed God! He believed God! No questions asked (remember Zacharias and his questions and what it cost him)
  • He had self control and chose to exercise it to honor Mary: This is a BIG ONE…He did not sleep with her, he had every right to consummate the marriage, but he chose to keep Mary a virgin until she gave birth. The angel didn’t tell him to, this was a choice he made
God honored Joseph’s integrity by entrusting him with a great responsibility. God is our Heavenly Father, He is the Father of Lights. As daughters, it would be wise for us to pay attention to the qualities of the men that God puts His stamp of approval on.
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What does your list for the ‘dream man’ look like? Does it include these qualities that are so important to the Father?

By Misty Honnold

Good Gifts

12/10/2014

 
​GIVING GOOD GIFTS
Every holiday I struggle with the thought of giving good gifts. My favorite Christmas story is “The Little Drummer Boy”. I can identify with his predicament of having nothing to give.  I love Christmas: the lights, music, cooking, and festivities of the holidays, but the idea of purchasing gifts, the challenge of finances for the gifts, and feeling like I had nothing good to give has always been an emotional heartache.

Like any good mom, I want to give GOOD GIFTS to my kids. I long to give them something they will remember and say “that was the best present ever”.  But, I have yet to find that eternal present; one that won’t become obsolete, they won’t outgrow, or break. My children are grown now, and I have failed to give them that present that will stand for all of time.

However, I find tremendous hope in the Word of God about giving gifts. Peter and John, like me, had nothing to give a lame beggar man. They informed him they had neither silver nor gold; however, they had something far better, something eternal: the revelation of the Healer.  God even tells us that He is a GOOD FATHER who loves to lavish His children with the gift of Himself.

So as I am confronted with Christmas ads, holiday gimmicks, and a desire to give good gifts to my children and others, I think about the greatest treasures I have given them over the years, things that will not collect dust or decay over time. These treasures will be just as priceless when they pass them on to their children. These are gifts that we should seek to give to our sons and daughters.  I have given my children an inheritance that money cannot buy.
  • Steadfast Love:  I did not say perfect love, but they know a love that is always there, a love that says “I’m sorry” and a love that forgives when they miss the mark. They know a love that is sure.
  • The knowledge that with God all things are possible:  over and over they have witnessed and participated in a journey, activities, a life that has only been made possible by God
  • Understanding of who He is as the Faithful One:  Our children have God sized opportunities for God to display the goodness of His name. He loves to show Himself strong for them and we can make a place in our homes for Him to meet with our children
  • A deep root system that God is for them: I have watched each of my children struggle through this and own it for themselves. As mothers we plant, water, and make sure the soil is good, but God Himself is responsible for taking the roots down deep.
  • That they are sons and daughters of the Most High God: to me this knowledge if the greatest gift of all, it is not something I gave them, only the Holy Spirit can give us that gift, however, I was able to show them, to direct them to the Father because I made choices to learn who the Father is in my life.

​I could not give my children any of the above without knowing it for myself. We cannot give what we don’t have.  Because I longed for my children to have more than I had, because I wanted to see them soar, I had to choose to find my way to the One who says we will ‘mount with wings like eagles’, and soar myself.
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What will you give to your children this holiday season?

Promises

11/21/2014

 
PROMISES FOR OUR CHILDREN…WHAT WILL YOU DO WITH THEM?

Amidst wars and rumors of wars, the fear that is being disseminated through the media, ISIS, Ebola, marshal law, economic collapse and the upcoming elections, in my heart I found myself pondering the question…and what of the single mother?
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Then one day, I stumbled upon a promise in Jeremiah 49 that caused me to “be still, and know that He is God.” In Jeremiah 49, God Almighty declares the destruction He will bring to Edom (Esau). He declares that Edom will become an utter wasteland. In the midst of a prophecy predicting a most horrifying destruction that was to come upon Edom, in one of the most depressing books of the Bible, God declares this promise…

“Leave your fatherless children. I will keep them alive; and let your widows trust in me.” ~Jeremiah 49:11

As I considered these words, I began feeling God’ heart, His thoughts and His emotions towards the widow and the orphan, towards me and my sons personally. His love for us is so other than that He charges Himself with being the One who will look after and take care of these women and children who will soon be left without a husband, without a “redeemer” in the natural. As I meditated this word, my heart began to connect with and appropriate this promise. I could feel it beginning to settle in my soul like an anchor in deep waters. The trust and confidence that among the midst of the chaos, darkness, and destruction of the world all around us, in this final hour God has not forgotten, nor will He forget, that He is the God of the widow and the fatherless.

These words are spoken from Abba Father, and are an exhortation to us as single mothers to remember just how great the Love of God is towards us, and a reminder to place our confidence in Him, the One whose is Father, Defender, Maker, Liberator, and Leader. He is the Father to the fatherless and, the defender of widows, the maker of a home for those who are alone, the liberator who frees the prisoners, and the leader who leads them to prosper. (Psalm 68:5)

NOW THAT HE HAS GIVEN THE PROMISE WHAT DO I DO WITH IT?


Let’s take this extravagant promise (and any other promises God has given you) from Abba Father and make it our point of departure TODAY! Together let’s pray the promise, directly from God’s Word, believing for ourselves and our children as well as for single moms and their children everywhere.

If you’ve been paying any attention to the “signs in the heavens” through the recent blood moons and the solar eclipses, you may have had a sense in your heart that God was “saying something” through the signs. He is! He is shouting from the heavens: pre-prayer…it’s time to watch and pray!

“There will be signs in the sun, moon and stars. On the earth, nations will be in anguish and perplexity at the roaring and tossing of the sea. People will faint from terror, apprehensive of what is coming on the world, for the heavenly bodies will be shaken.” ~Luke 21:25

So what’s stopping me?

We must enter into the place of prayer with wisdom, understanding that hindrances to prayer exist. The enemy will do whatever he can to make you give up. He wants you to be negligent, faint hearted, impatient, and fearful.

However, God uses delays to turn our desire into His desire, and to prove we are worthy. (Proverbs 13:12; Hebrews 11:17) It’s in the moments that we are experiencing the mystery of prayer: delay, denial, and seeming failure, that we must remember the Words of Psalmist:

“Until the time that His word came to pass, the word of the LORD tested him. The king sent and released him….and set him free.” ~Psalm 105:19-20

Abba, I speak into those reading this now the spirit of grace and supplication. We thank You, Holy Spirit, for teaching us how to pray believing, to pray without ceasing UNTIL! I thank You for great grace to take hold of the inheritance of prayer and intercession to raise up memorials of Your supernatural power, answers to prayer, and of promises fulfilled, in Yeshua’s name. Amen.
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By: Viola Jackson

Change

11/14/2014

 
SEASONS OF CHANGE
The cooler weather and the falling of the beautiful leaves is upon us…another season…more changes. Switching out closets, changing the clocks back, preparing for holidays, etc.

Having been a single mom for 12 plus years, and having raised 4 kids to adulthood during that time, I have seen a lot of seasons. I believe God intended them to be a place of hope, yet we can often feel overwhelmed with the required shifting and changes.

Some of you are in a season of:
• adjusting to being newly single.
• being weary of being single.
• seeing break-throughs in amazing ways
• just barely holding on to your faith that He will provide.
• having no grace for the kids

And there are many more scenarios….

Wherever you are today, I want to encourage you to STOP, look back, note the Lord’s provision and mercy, and recount the ways He has met you in whatever you have been doing. Give thanks OUT LOUD and REMEMBER His faithfulness. RECOUNT it…. It’s like pouring water into the garden of your heart.

“Light is sown like seed for the righteous and joy and gladness for the upright in heart” ~Psalm 97:11


I learned this, years ago, when I was severely depressed after a very traumatic betrayal of infidelity from my husband, and the ensuing required public confession in our church. There were days I could hardly function and everything seemed so dark and overwhelming. I was told by a counselor to make a list of 3 things a day that I would accomplish. Then I had to be thankful for them, even if my list of 15 more things wasn’t touched. I have done this ever since and it really helps keep your heart from being overwhelmed! In addition to this, I also had to find something to affirm or be thankful for in my situation. Some days it was as minimal as thanks for that hug, affirming the kindness of one of my family members, and being grateful for someone helping with chores.

I’m leaving you with the words of a song the Lord gave me in 2005:

In this season of change I choose trust Lord
When my way is disrupted and questions remain
Cause my heart and mind to align to the plans You’ve ordained.
In this season of change I choose trust Lord
Fear is laid at Your feet
Your Word says You’ll lead me in right paths
My call from You remains
To worship You and honor You
In all I say and do
Whether Or not I feel you
Just be – and worship You
To worship You and honor You
In all I say and do
No Matter what I see Lord
Just be – and worship You
Guide me through this season of doubt when life’s a mystery
Until I’m past the darkness and my clouded eyes can see
That though invisible Your tangible and oh so very real
Leading me, guiding me, with Your eye on me

Take a moment – whether in the shower, or driving, etc and give thanks to the Father for His provision and care for you! Then recount his goodness and affirm someone in your world.
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Written by: Laurie Morris
http://hismosaic.squarespace.com/
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